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USA Swimming and the Art of the Defensive Reaction

USA Swimming and the Art of the Defensive Reaction

Its a situation familiar to anyone- you have a disagreement with somebody, something unfortunate happens and their or your reaction is defensive. The first time I can truly remember doing it myself was in the 4th grade.

That was the first year I had to do homework. I didn't want to. My teacher obviously disagreed. When she chastised my lack of effort, I struck back. In a written letter, I lay blame almost entirely on her poor teaching. I was wrong, of course, but it felt very right at the time. Writing that letter did absolutely nothing to address the reason for our conflict- that I wasn't doing my homework.

In the last year, USA Swimming and swim coaches in general have come under increasing fire as evidence mounted that their were child predators in the midst and USA Swimming wasn't doing enough to find and stop them. The reaction to this evidence has been overwhelmingly defensive- tantamount to the letter I wrote my 4th grade teacher. They have sought to silence the dissent within their own organization. Chuck Wielgus, the executive director of USA Swimming, laid the blame on the victims for not reporting crimes in an interview with ESPN. They have looked for excuses to avoid investigating the claims made my Olympian Deena Deerdurff Schmidt. The list goes on but I will stop here.

Why is our natural instinct as human beings to react so defensively to anyone disagreeing with us or pointing out our faults? In 2008, Stanford University professors Carol Dweck and David Nussbaum investigated why people chose defensiveness over remediation (intending to change to improve the problem). They theorized that a defensive reaction is all about self-esteem repair.

Take me in the 4th grade as an example. My self-esteem told me I was a good student. Then I was confronted with something completely contrary to that: I wasn't doing homework and my grades were suffering. I sought to repair my self-esteem by shifting blame. Blame shifting is just one of more common methods used in a defensive reaction.

Another common method described by Dweck and Nussbaum is "[comparison]...with relatively worse off others". USA Swimming has used this strategy heavily- in fact the first point Wielgus made in his April 11th letter to USA Swimming members was as follows:

"This is a societal issue. The Center for Disease Control (CDC) reports that by the age of 18, one in four girls and one in six boys have been sexually molested. This amounts to approximately 39M victims in the U.S. alone"

The implication is that USA Swimming's child molestation victims only make up a small percentage of the total population of victims. What a relief!

Wielgus and his administrations self-esteem is that they are good people who would never do anything to hurt their members. They have seen the media reports in recent months as a direct attack on their self-esteem. And instead of doing what is needed to solve the problem- engaging in the sort of common sense solutions that have been suggested for over a decade, they engage the problem defensively to preserve their own self esteem. And it appears for now that USA Swimming is getting a free pass from their  most prominent members- the athletes and coaches at the highest level. Why? Because its in their self-interest not to speak up; USA Swimming has made them far richer than the average coach or athlete.

To contrast, lets look at a situation where the most prominent voices of USA Swimming had their self-esteem as world beating coaches and athletes threatened by bodysuits. How did they react? If you don't remember, here are some quotes:

Bob Bowman on July 28th, 2009 to the AP: "I'm done with this. It has to be implemented immediately. The sport is in shambles right now and they better do something or they're going to lose their guy who fills these seats. That would be my recommendation to him, to not swim internationally — he might swim locally. But who knows. The mess needs to be stopped right now. This can't go on any further"

Mark Schubert, April 27th, 2009 to the Chicago Tribune: "It's totally out of control,'' "Now we're into speedboat driving.'' "But the saddest thing is we no longer are able to compare generations. Swimming should be about the swimmer, not the suit"

John Leonard, on swimmingcoach.org, Summer 2009: The answer is no, the suit debacle is the most important thing that any of us can attend to. It preserves the heart and soul of our sport....which is reverence and appreciation for the hard work, attention to detail, courage and teamwork required to be a fine competitive swimmer and to learn to succeed with those life-skills. Instead of with your Daddy’s wallet."

Janet Evans July 30th, 2009 to the AP: "The fact that FINA can do this is making a mockery of these times and these swimmers...It doesn't put the athletes first, and that's the most important thing at the end of the day."

And yet now, when a situation of infinitely more grave importance is at hand, we are greeted by silence by the most powerful voices in our sport, except for words like this from John Leonard, who in response to Wielgus' letter wrote:

"The ASCA Completely Supports the Comments Made by USA-Swimming Executive Director Chuck Wielgus in this article" (www.swimmingcoach.org)

Or how about two quotes from Aaron Peirsol:

"My experience in the sport has been nothing but spectacular...I hope it's isolated" (Aaron Peirsol to the AP concerning the scandal)

Contrast that with what he says on his own website profile www.racefortheoceans.com:

"Aaron's greatest fear is that he'll look back years from now and wonder if he could have done more to protect our oceans"

Phelps chimes in via the AP:

"Swimming has been such an important part of my life. I've been able to meet some of the most important and influential people ever in my life. I'm thankful to have this sport and have these people as a part of my life"

Natalie Coughlin (AP):

"It's not like we're harbouring predators or anything like that"

Rebecca Soni (AP):

"It definitely is bad for the image of the sport"

Bowman, on regulating coach to swimmer interaction (AP):

"I don't know that you can have a hard-and-fast rule to meet every circumstance"

Finally, David Marsh constructs a straw man (AP):

"We're going to implement a program where we ask the swimmers and parents to call us 'Coach Such and Such' or 'Mr. Such and Such.' That will separate some of the casualness"

Where is the rage now? These are our children and we can't summon 1% of the anger we had over a bodysuit? The time is nigh to throw egos aside and do what is right. Garrett Weber-Gale did just that when he told the AP:

"My parents never left my sister and I at the pool by ourselves with the coach. You don't really know who these coaches are, and you're going to leave your kids there alone for two of three hours? They're just kids. Anything could be going on"

USA Swimming must immediately implement the child protection measures suggested by Mike Saltzstein, Tony Austin, and anybody else with common sense:

1. All youth‐adult interactions, must comply with the rule of two leadership standard.x No exceptions, no excuses, and effective immediately.

2. Good faith and reasonable suspicion reporting as a condition of membership. Commercial email and voice compliance reporting systems are numerous. Implement a system within the week.

3. Any USA Swimming staff member involved in failing to report, or involved in any failure to report or "lost", "misplaced" or "excessively delayed" investigation, be dealt with through personnel action and, when appropriate, terminated. Implement policy within 10 days.

4. If determined that any Swimming Hall of Fame Inductee engaged in prohibited conduct, call on the Hall to remove the offender.

5. Without specific recognized training or certification, physical manipulation, massages and rub downs are not an acceptable coaching activity xi, and may never occur in a one‐on‐one scenario xii

6. Implement & enforce a real Protection Program. Youth is the focus, but any reported sexual harassment, threat of retaliation, or unaccepted touching must lead to discipline. Require youth protection training. Internet access easily provides quality education

We can't afford to wait another day.

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My Story

Lately, reading and hearing about the cases of sexual misconduct in swimming has caused me to reflect on an experience I had with a swim coach when I was 16.  John was 24 and he coached the little kids on the team I was swimming for at the time.  He was cute and I liked him immediately and looked for reasons to hang around the pool deck to talk to him.  Over the course of the season, I guess you could say we became friends—as much as 24 year old can be friends with a 16 year old.  I had a huge crush on him and really felt like he understood me.  High school boys were stupid and here was this older guy that made me feel special.  I’m not exactly sure when my relationship with John changed, but at some point it wasn’t just me looking to him to help me feel better about myself.  He started confiding in me about his girlfriend and we began to talk on the phone instead of just on the pool deck.  I craved attention from him.  John made me feel pretty and I ate it up when he told me things would be different if I were just a little older.  Then one night toward the end of the season we walked to our cars together after practice and he kissed me.  It was just a kiss, but immediately the way I thought about him changed and I knew this really wasn’t right.  I had spent months hoping that this would happen and when it did I was angry.  Suddenly what I thought was an unattainable and harmless crush turned into someone I trusted crossing the line.  A few weeks before this happened and because of reasons that had nothing to do with John, I had decided to switch clubs.  The night of the kiss ended up being one of the last times I saw him and although he called a few times afterwards, I was not interested in talking to him.

Unfortunately, what happened between me and John is not a unique scenario.  I think about it every now and then when I hear stories about older men with teenage girls.  I will never accept that this type of relationship is ok, or that the girl “knew what she was doing.”  I know now that I had absolutely no idea what I was doing.  I also know that when I was 24, I never would have wanted to spend time with a 16 year old.  A 16 year old may seem like an almost adult, but almost isn’t good enough.  I suppose John’s ego was being fed by my crush the same way I needed his compliments and approval for my own self esteem.  I also know that I was the instigator of what happened between us, but as the adult in the situation, I blame him for letting it go too far.  I’m not saying that what happened to me was sexual abuse and I don’t think John would go around intentionally harming other girls, but regardless of my actions back then, as a person in a position of trust, he acted inappropriately.  The crazy thing to me is that 16 years later, I am still affected by this. 

thank you

I want to thank you for your posting.  My daughter swam for many years for a club that has a coach on this list.  I shudder when I think of the back rubs that he gave her over the years.  Her team has a closed practice policy but, in any case, it's not socially acceptable for a parent to watch an older child's practice.  My daughter has a female head coach for the first time in her experience now that she is in college.  I would also urge teams to give more priority to hiring female head coaches.  Yes, women aren't perfect but I don't think I saw one woman's name on that list.  It has been transformative for my daughter to be treated with decency and respect in college.  I hope there is a way to get your recommendations to each local swim club in the country, especially for clubs on that list.  

All true accounts...

All true, it seems that many at the top are ignoring this very important issue or at least not giving it its due importance to the eyes of the public through the press. The elite level may spend time at clinics or maybe making an appearance with a local team but don't spend the time that some of us do. It would be interesting to see the different reactions from those who have kids versus those who don't. What is Dara Torres' and Jason Lezak reaction versus other pros who don't have children? Are they reacting the way they are to avoid retaliation or sanction by USA Swimming if they lead on that USA Swimming hasn't been doing enough? It's a sad idea, but still plausible given what has happened to Saltzstein & Austin.  Marsh though, to his credit, is implementing other standards in an attempt to curb any issues. No two piece practice suits during the summer is one of the top of my head. Bowman as well, the rest of that quote he defines the hard-line circumstances comparing to that of an 8 year old swimmer versus a 21+ adult like Michael Phelps.  Either way this situation is far bigger than some urethane suits, action should have been swift and strong and opinion should have been in more of disgust that passing glance.

re: Marsh

Erik, I have to say honestly that David Marsh is one of my idols as a swim coach. However, his words on this are terrible. No two piece bathing suits? So we are back to blaming the swimmers for their molestation. Oh if only they wouldn't wear stuff that was so revealing the coaches could contain themselves!

really?

It is one of the hopefully many steps they are taking to avoid such issues. If he has a lot more policies being made at MAC, he certainly should have announced those, but failed to do so. I am not casting blame on swimmers who are being abused, it was merely a step they are taking. I don't think for one second that Marsh is blaming anyone who has been abused. As a father himself I am sure that he has a big concern for this. Furthermore, if that's one of a handful of quotes picked out by the media what are we to do? Maybe the conversation was much longer than that and he went into detail about the changes MAC is implimenting. Journalists can and will write what they see fit for news (or are limited by number of words, taking what they can fit). If you are looking for a call to arms: put together a petition, organize a rally, write your local congressman. The conversations we have here on the internet are healthy and productive. When we come up with solutions we are getting some where and then these should be presented to those in charge (see Saltzstien, Mike). I am an age group coach, I have been working everday since this announcement on egg shells waiting for someone to take something out of context. I have this overwhelming worry now, that something is going to be misconstrued and I won't be able to coach. I watch every word that comes out of my mouth and make sure that we have and portray that we have a safe environment for our swimmers. Change is just as important to me as it is to you, but we must write to the correct people instead of blogging about the irritation we feel for those not saying or doing enough. Write to them, talk to them (or in USA Swimmings case, attempt to talk to them). If this is botherin you enough to blog, it should bother you enough to start the revolution or join Saltzstein.

Wow. Great article

Chris,

This is an incredibly important point that you are making. Your examination of the attention paid to tech suits and lack of attention to sexual misconduct is sickening.  Thanks for calling this one as it is. 

Do you have specific recommendations of how coaches should be responding?

The most important thing, is

The most important thing, is that if you are a USA Swimming member- make your voice heard. Advocate for change on your own club and urge other clubs to join. Push the leadership at the highest level to take action now!